With Christmas just six days away, it's very important, and I cannot stress this enough, that you do NOT forget what this Holiday is all about! It's NOT just about giving gifts or receiving them, it's about celebrating Jesus Christ's birthday. And to me, there is no better gift to give, than giving of oneself, and we should NOT just give because of December 25, we should be giving ALL YEAR ROUND! As I mentioned in previous blogs. Try as hard as you might to begin living Christmas!
Which brings me to a topic that has been bothering me for quite some time, and I thought it might be on the minds of some of you, so here it goes, and I'd love to hear your opinions!
As of the last 15 years or so, there have been two words that really drive me absolutely nuts~~so much so these words infuriate me, and burns my soul to the very core, and those two words are 'politically correct!" First of all, anything dealing with the word "politics" begins to make my eyebrow pulsate, so when people say to me, politically correct, my vein in my neck begins to pop!
For years during this time of the year, I enjoyed telling my family, friends and co-workers, "Merry Christmas!" And people, in kind would say the words back. It was a much happier time in my life, and a kind gesture to state to fellow human beings. And then all of a sudden, some wise ass decided that they were "offended" by the use of the words "Merry Christmas" and so it has become a thing of the past to even dare think the words, much less say them. And the retailers and businesses wonder why their sales are down? Hmmm, it couldn't be just because people have less money to spend, maybe it has a little something to do with being politically correct. Follow and take a little journey with me, if you will!
Okay, humor me fans, for just a moment. I mean come on, am I the only one that doesn't feel in the Christmas mood as of recent years? And it's not just because the world is one big ball of mess, but people have really made me hate this holiday season, and I didn't always feel that way. How about you?
First, the government tells us that in order to respect everyone's religions and holiday beliefs, we shouldn't say "Merry Christmas," but instead say 'Happy Holidays!' And if that wasn't bad enough, most of our jobs have adopted the same attitude. We're told you can't put up anything that signifies "Christmas," but rather put up festive decorations that any holiday could respect. Hmmm, really?
A friend shared with me that at her job, she put up some snowflakes and candy cane cardboard decorations and she was called into the office because the HR Dept. stated that the candy canes could be viewed as a symbol of "Christmas," so she was ordered, please note, not asked, to take the candy canes down, but the snowflakes could stay up! Wow, really? I didn't know candy canes were considered "Christmas?" Did you?
Another friend of mine had a beautiful one line sentence that read, 'Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, God Bless" which tagged on her email underneath her name, and she was called into the office by HR and told that she had to immediately, and they didn't mean when she felt like it, remove the words "Merry Christmas" and "God Bless" from under her name, and if she refused to do it, she would be fired! Amazing, fans, don't you think?
So, pardon, me if I appear to be a little Buh Humbug-ish, but with places of employment removing Merry Christmas and the government removing "Merry Christmas" what the hell is the point in celebrating the damn holiday anymore? I mean, come on, for most of my life I was able to celebrate my Holiday of Christmas, and now I'm forced to whisper to my co-workers, "Merry Christmas" and be extremely mindful of how loud I'm saying it and who the hell is lurking around so I don't get in trouble because I said it! Here's what I want someone to tell me, where the hell did my rights go for ME celebrating my holiday? Can someone answer that question for me~~any takers on that? Since when does everyone else get the right to celebrate what they enjoy, and now Christmas is offensive, since when?
And people have the audacity to wonder what is wrong with this world anymore? Just look around you, folks, and it's not too hard to figure out~~it's not an exact science here! This used to be the time of year I looked forward too~~sending out my Christmas cards, and going to family functions and spending time with good friends and reflecting back on the year we had, and now when this time of the year rolls around, I don't even care about it! The only thing that keeps me somewhat focused is Jesus, himself. I remember Christ and that lessens my anger some! I try to think that Christ wouldn't want me to feel this way, so I try to be respectful and mindful of that, but who the heck is mindful of how I feel about being a Christian?
I'm so sick and tired of these do-gooder, so called doosh-bags telling me what I'm supposed to think, feel and say! Separation of Church and State, take God off of our currency, take God off of anything where He resides, which is everywhere, folks, in case you didn't know, but yet, I'm supposed to forget about my holiday~~I don't get to rejoice in Christ's birthday or utter the words all because some idiot says it offends them!
Well, I tell you what, it offends ME that I can't celebrate and say my holiday aloud as I used to do for so many years. It offends ME that people are so caught up in their own little worlds, that they don't take the time to consider how others feel! I'm offended that businesses have systematically turned Christmas into a billion-dollar a year industry and tossed out the true meaning of why we celebrate His birthday! I'm offended, I'm offended, I'm offended! But guess what, no one gives a damn that I am. My words are just that on a blog, but what laws did I break for you, because you may not believe like I believe?
These are the same individuals who cannot do anything about the real problems that plague our communities, like health care, loss of jobs, homelessness, people without food, kids who cannot afford to get a good quality education, higher taxes, property taxes, etc., but YOU can make damn sure I can't use the words "Merry Christmas!" I tell ya, you've got to love this Country! (HA!!!) You can take the words "politically correct" and shove it up 'politically WRONG'S' ass~~how about that!
So, fans, I say this, I wish each and every one of you a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year, and may God Bless You All! In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!
Saturday, December 19, 2009
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
A New Leaf. . .
There are those of us who are go getters, the movers and shakers, and the 'get-'er-done type folks, and then there are those who prey on your hard work, tag along on your coat-tails, and sit back and enjoy the ride. Also known as your "freeloaders!"
This has been the craziest, most wildest year, I've experienced in many, many years, and I'm so thankful for it. I have been reconnected with some old friends, and have made quite a few new ones, and again, I'm thankful because of it.
I've decided to start practicing my New Year's Resolutions, early, because there is no time like the present! Now that I'm reflecting a lot, because I do that every December, the lessons I've learned in this year is going to jumpstart the coming year.
First, my biggest hurdle to get over is trying to forgive those who do not wish me well. Forgiving is one of the hardest things for an individual to do, especially me, because I'm one that once you cross me, that was once too many times, so you don't get a second chance to screw me over again. So, fans, I'm practicing this, but it's extremely difficult for me. (Pray for me ~~ chuckle)!
Second, my next hurdle to get over is to stop worrying over every single damn thing in my life! Worry, worry, worry is all I do, so I've decided that instead of worrying, I will replace worry with prayer. Every time I feel myself about to worry, I pray to God and ask Him to help me stay strong. I've been doing this now for the last 6 weeks and I'm finding it's working out great! I noticed that when I stopped worrying over everything, a lot of the stress I once felt has dissipated and I feel so much better and lighter! Worry weighs you down, so I'm not going to do it anymore. I've also learned that everything usually turns out okay anyway, so why did I give myself an ulcer over worry? Hmmm?
Third, I've began my spring cleaning early, and no, fans, I'm not talking about cleaning my physical home, I'm talking about cleansing my spirit by getting rid of negative thoughts and removing negative people from my life. My mind works very much like a computer, and I've been thinking over this year and every single person I've come in contact with, stored in memory, and those that mean me well, will stay apart of my file, but those who mean me harm, I've deleted those files, to never be restored from my recycle bin. I've wiped the hard drive clean, and this feels absolutely great!
Lastly, I will continue to stay focused and keep my eyes on the prize because yes, there is a prize waiting for me! Anything that does not fit into my new way of thinking will be forever cast from my files. I will continue to record all that happens around me, but the minute a virus tries to intercept, my spam filter will be doing the trick destroying the virus before it even has a chance to break through.
So fans, these are my new leaves I'm turning over and have already put into place. My only hurdle for 2010 will be to continue to execute my programs and stick with them. I am much wiser, I've learned a great many things from 2009, and I plan to keep those things in my notes for future reference~~so that, if any viruses try to plague my existence, I will recognize the signs, because hackers are very good at what they do. They can immitate just about anything to make it appear real, but when you click and open, you've spread poison all through your files, and destroyed your PC in the process.
In closing, beware of the hackers out here, and if you haven't figured by now, hackers are not the only ones that sit by and write programs to destroy your computers. There are ALL types of hackers, and you might want to check your PCs to see what you need to get rid of, because every file you download isn't what it appears to be!
This is my truth, Plain and Simple! Happy Reading!
This has been the craziest, most wildest year, I've experienced in many, many years, and I'm so thankful for it. I have been reconnected with some old friends, and have made quite a few new ones, and again, I'm thankful because of it.
I've decided to start practicing my New Year's Resolutions, early, because there is no time like the present! Now that I'm reflecting a lot, because I do that every December, the lessons I've learned in this year is going to jumpstart the coming year.
First, my biggest hurdle to get over is trying to forgive those who do not wish me well. Forgiving is one of the hardest things for an individual to do, especially me, because I'm one that once you cross me, that was once too many times, so you don't get a second chance to screw me over again. So, fans, I'm practicing this, but it's extremely difficult for me. (Pray for me ~~ chuckle)!
Second, my next hurdle to get over is to stop worrying over every single damn thing in my life! Worry, worry, worry is all I do, so I've decided that instead of worrying, I will replace worry with prayer. Every time I feel myself about to worry, I pray to God and ask Him to help me stay strong. I've been doing this now for the last 6 weeks and I'm finding it's working out great! I noticed that when I stopped worrying over everything, a lot of the stress I once felt has dissipated and I feel so much better and lighter! Worry weighs you down, so I'm not going to do it anymore. I've also learned that everything usually turns out okay anyway, so why did I give myself an ulcer over worry? Hmmm?
Third, I've began my spring cleaning early, and no, fans, I'm not talking about cleaning my physical home, I'm talking about cleansing my spirit by getting rid of negative thoughts and removing negative people from my life. My mind works very much like a computer, and I've been thinking over this year and every single person I've come in contact with, stored in memory, and those that mean me well, will stay apart of my file, but those who mean me harm, I've deleted those files, to never be restored from my recycle bin. I've wiped the hard drive clean, and this feels absolutely great!
Lastly, I will continue to stay focused and keep my eyes on the prize because yes, there is a prize waiting for me! Anything that does not fit into my new way of thinking will be forever cast from my files. I will continue to record all that happens around me, but the minute a virus tries to intercept, my spam filter will be doing the trick destroying the virus before it even has a chance to break through.
So fans, these are my new leaves I'm turning over and have already put into place. My only hurdle for 2010 will be to continue to execute my programs and stick with them. I am much wiser, I've learned a great many things from 2009, and I plan to keep those things in my notes for future reference~~so that, if any viruses try to plague my existence, I will recognize the signs, because hackers are very good at what they do. They can immitate just about anything to make it appear real, but when you click and open, you've spread poison all through your files, and destroyed your PC in the process.
In closing, beware of the hackers out here, and if you haven't figured by now, hackers are not the only ones that sit by and write programs to destroy your computers. There are ALL types of hackers, and you might want to check your PCs to see what you need to get rid of, because every file you download isn't what it appears to be!
This is my truth, Plain and Simple! Happy Reading!
Friday, December 11, 2009
The "Small" Things. . .
All of my life I always felt that I was different from others. As I reflect back on my childhood all the way up to my adult life, it's amazing to me how much I've changed, not only in appearances, but in my mindset. What I once thought was important in life, I've now come to learn those things really don't matter.
One thing that used to always bother me was why I was so envied and hated by so many of my peers. For as nice as I am, my thinking was, what is there not to like? I'm a nice person, and I'm good to people, so why do people not like me? I was ridiculed as a child by my peers. I was ridiculed as a teenager by my peers, and unfortunately, I have been ridiculed as an adult by my peers, and the burning question, once again, has been, why? What did this little 4'11" person ever do to make people dislike me?
I had to think back to my childhood to get the answer, and it struck me like a knock-out punch. Some people have treated me this way because I am different and because I exist. Yes, fans, can you believe that, I've been mistreated by many for the mere simple reason that I am in the world! May be hard to believe, but oh how true this is!
I've chronicled my entire life through journals, and while reading some very painful entries, especially through my childhood, I remember an incident I got into with another school kid. We were fighting, something I always found distasteful, but a necessary evil toward my own survival, and it just so happened that a police officer appeared to break up the altercation. When the officer asked the girl I was fighting why are you harboring so much hate toward this little girl, (I will never ever forget her response), she said, "I hate Kim cause, just because I hate her!" The officer raised an eyebrow and looked at her and then to me. By this time, my mother came down to see what was going on, and the officer said to her, "This child really hates that your daughter exists! My goodness she bears watching!"
I was hated for merely living! Wow, that's more startling to me today than it was over 30 something odd years ago! My mother used to tell me your little girlfriends don't like you. While your back is turned, they are sneering at you. I asked my mother countless times, why mom, why? I'm a nice person. She said it was jealously! I learned about the green-eyed monster at a very early age. Mom told me that I was different in that I had something special that others could see, and hated me for it because they wish they had it. So as I began to grow up, I pondered over what was "it" that I had that some didn't possess? And why was "it" given to me?
I still cannot answer that question, but I learned a great many things from "it!" So now that I'm an author, a huge feat and accomplishment in and of itself, my "it" factor is beginning to glow, as well as the green eyes that have always plagued my existence. The one thing that most of the people who don't like me don't seem to get is, the more you fight against my very existence, the stronger you will me to live! For many years, I thought I walked alone? I felt all by myself because I was made to feel this way by so many of my peers, and now that I'm stone grown, I see nothing has changed at all, except my thinking!
Which brings me to the crux of this Blog! Last night, I had my Wine & Cheese Release Party, and all day, prior to the event, I was so nervous. I kept saying to myself, no one will show, don't nobody care, this is gonna be a huge waste of everyone's time, and why am I bothering, much less struggling to make it as an author, when no one seems to understand my true passion for writing? People RSVP'd and said they were coming, and I studied that list over and over, wondering, hmmm, will these people actually show? I had a burning sensation in the pit of my stomach, and I was terrified for what I was about to embark upon.
And then "it" happened! There were ladies everywhere getting their hair done looking all fly, and I'm like well they are just here for that! WRONG! Yes, they did come to get their hair done, but they also came to support this sista! Lil ole me, the one that is so hated by many! And if that didn't drop my jaw enough, my three best friends came out to support me, and entertained everyone in Fahrenheit and enjoyed themselves along the way! They helped drum up business for me, which was AWESOME!
I even had some surprising guests who graced me with their presence~~The President and CEO of Hill House Association, Mr. Evan Frasier, and his Associate, Martin Prentice. Mr. Frazier is an author himself and gave me a personally signed copy and bought a copy of mine, as did Mr. Prentice. I was totally blown away and extremely shocked that they came out to support me. They gave me many props and wished me well. Anton Williams, Michael A. Smith and Eric Epps are three of the nicest men you will ever meet. They gave much love and support to me throughout this entire grueling process and they encourage me to continue to follow my dreams! I love you guys!
In closing, at the end of the day, I realized what matters most to me. It's not what people say with their mouths, and all the empty promises people give you to make a great selling pitch, and it's not all the B.S. that people spout just because they think that's what you want to hear, and it's not about what I can do for them or what they can get out of the deal, "it" is the small things that mattered. They were there solely to support ME! They were there because they love me and want to see me do well. And for me, that's all I need. I no longer care about how much someone doesn't like me, nor do I give a damn if I'm hated by many just because I'm doing what I love to do, because my existence isn't about YOU, it's about ME and what God has in his Plan! As everyone told me last night, you are going to make it and we're glad to know you. To hear people I never knew tell me that they are glad to know me, more than adequately makes up for all the horrible, rotten things people have said and done to me!
I am loved and respected and, that folks, pretty much sums it up! God placed the right people in my path and blessed me, and I thank you Lord!
MERRY CHRISTMAS, fans! Happy Reading!
One thing that used to always bother me was why I was so envied and hated by so many of my peers. For as nice as I am, my thinking was, what is there not to like? I'm a nice person, and I'm good to people, so why do people not like me? I was ridiculed as a child by my peers. I was ridiculed as a teenager by my peers, and unfortunately, I have been ridiculed as an adult by my peers, and the burning question, once again, has been, why? What did this little 4'11" person ever do to make people dislike me?
I had to think back to my childhood to get the answer, and it struck me like a knock-out punch. Some people have treated me this way because I am different and because I exist. Yes, fans, can you believe that, I've been mistreated by many for the mere simple reason that I am in the world! May be hard to believe, but oh how true this is!
I've chronicled my entire life through journals, and while reading some very painful entries, especially through my childhood, I remember an incident I got into with another school kid. We were fighting, something I always found distasteful, but a necessary evil toward my own survival, and it just so happened that a police officer appeared to break up the altercation. When the officer asked the girl I was fighting why are you harboring so much hate toward this little girl, (I will never ever forget her response), she said, "I hate Kim cause, just because I hate her!" The officer raised an eyebrow and looked at her and then to me. By this time, my mother came down to see what was going on, and the officer said to her, "This child really hates that your daughter exists! My goodness she bears watching!"
I was hated for merely living! Wow, that's more startling to me today than it was over 30 something odd years ago! My mother used to tell me your little girlfriends don't like you. While your back is turned, they are sneering at you. I asked my mother countless times, why mom, why? I'm a nice person. She said it was jealously! I learned about the green-eyed monster at a very early age. Mom told me that I was different in that I had something special that others could see, and hated me for it because they wish they had it. So as I began to grow up, I pondered over what was "it" that I had that some didn't possess? And why was "it" given to me?
I still cannot answer that question, but I learned a great many things from "it!" So now that I'm an author, a huge feat and accomplishment in and of itself, my "it" factor is beginning to glow, as well as the green eyes that have always plagued my existence. The one thing that most of the people who don't like me don't seem to get is, the more you fight against my very existence, the stronger you will me to live! For many years, I thought I walked alone? I felt all by myself because I was made to feel this way by so many of my peers, and now that I'm stone grown, I see nothing has changed at all, except my thinking!
Which brings me to the crux of this Blog! Last night, I had my Wine & Cheese Release Party, and all day, prior to the event, I was so nervous. I kept saying to myself, no one will show, don't nobody care, this is gonna be a huge waste of everyone's time, and why am I bothering, much less struggling to make it as an author, when no one seems to understand my true passion for writing? People RSVP'd and said they were coming, and I studied that list over and over, wondering, hmmm, will these people actually show? I had a burning sensation in the pit of my stomach, and I was terrified for what I was about to embark upon.
And then "it" happened! There were ladies everywhere getting their hair done looking all fly, and I'm like well they are just here for that! WRONG! Yes, they did come to get their hair done, but they also came to support this sista! Lil ole me, the one that is so hated by many! And if that didn't drop my jaw enough, my three best friends came out to support me, and entertained everyone in Fahrenheit and enjoyed themselves along the way! They helped drum up business for me, which was AWESOME!
I even had some surprising guests who graced me with their presence~~The President and CEO of Hill House Association, Mr. Evan Frasier, and his Associate, Martin Prentice. Mr. Frazier is an author himself and gave me a personally signed copy and bought a copy of mine, as did Mr. Prentice. I was totally blown away and extremely shocked that they came out to support me. They gave me many props and wished me well. Anton Williams, Michael A. Smith and Eric Epps are three of the nicest men you will ever meet. They gave much love and support to me throughout this entire grueling process and they encourage me to continue to follow my dreams! I love you guys!
In closing, at the end of the day, I realized what matters most to me. It's not what people say with their mouths, and all the empty promises people give you to make a great selling pitch, and it's not all the B.S. that people spout just because they think that's what you want to hear, and it's not about what I can do for them or what they can get out of the deal, "it" is the small things that mattered. They were there solely to support ME! They were there because they love me and want to see me do well. And for me, that's all I need. I no longer care about how much someone doesn't like me, nor do I give a damn if I'm hated by many just because I'm doing what I love to do, because my existence isn't about YOU, it's about ME and what God has in his Plan! As everyone told me last night, you are going to make it and we're glad to know you. To hear people I never knew tell me that they are glad to know me, more than adequately makes up for all the horrible, rotten things people have said and done to me!
I am loved and respected and, that folks, pretty much sums it up! God placed the right people in my path and blessed me, and I thank you Lord!
MERRY CHRISTMAS, fans! Happy Reading!
Saturday, December 5, 2009
'Tis The Season to be. . .
Nuts!!! I've always been a person who stays up on the latest world events, but as of late, I have had to stop reading reports and I sensor myself from the local news. Why, you ask? Because each and every day I turn on my television, all I ever hear is negative news stories that completely boggle my mind.
Case in point, the story of the 55-year old man at Wal-Mart who cold cocked a 72-year old Wal-Mart greeter in his face for apparently NO REASON at all. Just when I think I've heard and see it all, at the age of only 41, people almost always prove me wrong! What the hell has happened to humankind?
This man lays in the hospital with a broken jaw along with broken dentures that were cracked to millions of pieces. Even as a writer, I can't keep up with the crazy things that humans do to one another. I watched this man just punch this older man in the face for nothing. What in this world would possess a human being to do this to another?
And if that weren't enough, a woman and a friend of hers were leaving a mall complex and her estranged husband walked right up to her and shot her and killed the man that was with her. One spectator reported that this man just shot the guy execution-style like he had no care at all in the world. Turns out, the alleged perpetrator was served his divorce papers weeks prior and his estranged wife was out with a "friend", who was merely just a friend, and the husband thought otherwise, and now a man's life has ended, the man accused of committing this act will most likely go to jail, his children are now fatherless, and all because he can't handle that his wife is leaving him.
But, the story that really got me this week, was the father with the triplets, who, he claimed they were playing by the stairs and fell. Two-year old triplets playing by stairs~~hmmm, that didn't sound right from the moment those words left the reporter's mouth, and then the story changed overnight and it was reported that the father had caused the injuries to his children, (now that sounded more feasible, but, that shouldn't be logical, now should it?) which now one of the triplets has since died!
One thing all these stories have in common, other than how tragic they are, is that they prove that some human's souls are broken! It's sad, but true. There are so many broken hearted soul-less people walking around~~soul-less zombies, just committing whatever acts they can to hold on to some sense of reality, even if that reality is hurting others. No matter if they are looking for their 15-minutes-of-fame or just because they are depressed, crazy, idiotic, soul-less, people are committing heinous acts, and there doesn't appear to be an end in sight to all this madness!
If life has thrown you a bad curve ball, it doesn't give you the right to go out here and lose your damn mind and hurt other people because your life isn't what it should be! I repeat, just because life isn't going the way you want it to, doesn't give YOU the right to hurt others or take other's lives because you're hurting!
Hell, if I took that attitude, there wouldn't be many people living! I think of all the things I've had to endure in my life, and although they were horrible tramautic situations I had to get through, I didn't take my pain out on anyone, nor myself! Fans, this goes back to what I stated in my previous blog, that people don't own up to their responsibilities. Some people think it's quite alright to go out here and commit crime and hurt others because they are doing without. It doesn't make it right!
I know America's ecomony still sucks, and I don't think there is anyone in the world who can help this situation, but be that as it may, I remain optimistic, and hopeful. There are those trying hard like hell to get rid of God out of everything, and, I might add, are succeeding, and you wonder why the stories I mentioned above are happening today?
The Holidays can be a magical time for many of us, but there are many who suffer terribly from depression!
If you are having thoughts of suicide, or thinking about hurting someone, YOU need to get help, and I don't mean that in a joking manner, I mean it seriously!! Depression affects millions of Americans, even when the Holidays aren't in play, so be on the lookout for people who don't appear to be themselves. It is quite alright to seek help when you can't help yourself. No one will laugh at you for admitting that you are having a rough time.
In closing, keeping in line with the Holiday theme, if you or someone you know is having problems with depression or grief, below are some helpful websites. I wish all of my fans, a safe and Happy Holiday Season, because I would like to see you all in future years to come. Here's to Health and Well-Being! God Bless~~Happy Reading!
http://www.depression-screening.org/
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/understanding_depression.html
http://www.highmarkcaringplace.com/
http://www.goodgriefcenter.com/
Case in point, the story of the 55-year old man at Wal-Mart who cold cocked a 72-year old Wal-Mart greeter in his face for apparently NO REASON at all. Just when I think I've heard and see it all, at the age of only 41, people almost always prove me wrong! What the hell has happened to humankind?
This man lays in the hospital with a broken jaw along with broken dentures that were cracked to millions of pieces. Even as a writer, I can't keep up with the crazy things that humans do to one another. I watched this man just punch this older man in the face for nothing. What in this world would possess a human being to do this to another?
And if that weren't enough, a woman and a friend of hers were leaving a mall complex and her estranged husband walked right up to her and shot her and killed the man that was with her. One spectator reported that this man just shot the guy execution-style like he had no care at all in the world. Turns out, the alleged perpetrator was served his divorce papers weeks prior and his estranged wife was out with a "friend", who was merely just a friend, and the husband thought otherwise, and now a man's life has ended, the man accused of committing this act will most likely go to jail, his children are now fatherless, and all because he can't handle that his wife is leaving him.
But, the story that really got me this week, was the father with the triplets, who, he claimed they were playing by the stairs and fell. Two-year old triplets playing by stairs~~hmmm, that didn't sound right from the moment those words left the reporter's mouth, and then the story changed overnight and it was reported that the father had caused the injuries to his children, (now that sounded more feasible, but, that shouldn't be logical, now should it?) which now one of the triplets has since died!
One thing all these stories have in common, other than how tragic they are, is that they prove that some human's souls are broken! It's sad, but true. There are so many broken hearted soul-less people walking around~~soul-less zombies, just committing whatever acts they can to hold on to some sense of reality, even if that reality is hurting others. No matter if they are looking for their 15-minutes-of-fame or just because they are depressed, crazy, idiotic, soul-less, people are committing heinous acts, and there doesn't appear to be an end in sight to all this madness!
If life has thrown you a bad curve ball, it doesn't give you the right to go out here and lose your damn mind and hurt other people because your life isn't what it should be! I repeat, just because life isn't going the way you want it to, doesn't give YOU the right to hurt others or take other's lives because you're hurting!
Hell, if I took that attitude, there wouldn't be many people living! I think of all the things I've had to endure in my life, and although they were horrible tramautic situations I had to get through, I didn't take my pain out on anyone, nor myself! Fans, this goes back to what I stated in my previous blog, that people don't own up to their responsibilities. Some people think it's quite alright to go out here and commit crime and hurt others because they are doing without. It doesn't make it right!
I know America's ecomony still sucks, and I don't think there is anyone in the world who can help this situation, but be that as it may, I remain optimistic, and hopeful. There are those trying hard like hell to get rid of God out of everything, and, I might add, are succeeding, and you wonder why the stories I mentioned above are happening today?
The Holidays can be a magical time for many of us, but there are many who suffer terribly from depression!
If you are having thoughts of suicide, or thinking about hurting someone, YOU need to get help, and I don't mean that in a joking manner, I mean it seriously!! Depression affects millions of Americans, even when the Holidays aren't in play, so be on the lookout for people who don't appear to be themselves. It is quite alright to seek help when you can't help yourself. No one will laugh at you for admitting that you are having a rough time.
In closing, keeping in line with the Holiday theme, if you or someone you know is having problems with depression or grief, below are some helpful websites. I wish all of my fans, a safe and Happy Holiday Season, because I would like to see you all in future years to come. Here's to Health and Well-Being! God Bless~~Happy Reading!
http://www.depression-screening.org/
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/understanding_depression.html
http://www.highmarkcaringplace.com/
http://www.goodgriefcenter.com/
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
The 'Blame Game'. . .
Today was one of those days where all that could have gone wrong most certainly did, and, to add insult to injury, it was the kind of day where I should have been upset, crying, stomping my feet and cussing up a storm, but instead, I remained calm.
I've penned today the "Blame Game!" I guess what always baffles me is when others make mistakes, it's so easy to point the finger at someone else, but the one thing that most individuals who play this game fail to realize is, three fingers are pointing back at YOU!
So, fans, I ask, why do we partake in the Blame Game? One reason is because most people don't like responsibility, much less, own up to it! Why, when you make a mistake, someone will actually see that you're human, and you may be viewed as weak, so therefore, I must blame someone else for my mistakes and problems, right?
In order for you to feel justified in your being, most people resort to blaming others with their shortcomings! So, if blaming someone else makes YOU feel big, what exactly does that make you? Full? Yes, full of yourself, full of an overinflated ego, full of excrament, perhaps? Remember, small-minded folks who enjoy playing the blame game, all games come to an end, eventually! YOU may THINK you're doing something great by placing all your faults on someone else, but sooner or later, all will be revealed, and YOU will be forced to deal with your responsibility.
I am one of those people who believe that you control the destiny in which you drive. I believe that by the choices you make, good or otherwise, all have a way of leading you to a road which may be fruitful, or a road that may be deadly! There are obstacles that are purposely thrown in your way, while you go down the path you've chosen, I believe, to teach you life's lessons, and we're all, somehow, being tested by God to see how well we received our lesson and what we've learned. Some learn from their mistakes, while others, aren't so lucky! And those not so lucky, get angry with us because we've found a path that is working~~these are your road rage drivers in life, or a word I love even better ~~your haters!
Which brings me to my next point. Not only do we, as humans, place blame on others that is undeserved, we also judge others by our own standards! What may excite me and I find to be enjoyment, someone else may think it's totally insane and ridiculous, but at the end of the day, whatever gets you down your path, why should it matter what someone else thinks, right?
Well apparently, I must be wrong, because so many of us judge each other all day long. We gossip and talk about people and say what we would and wouldn't do, when again, you don't know what path someone else is on and why they have chosen to go down the road they are headed. Sure you may see another way that may appear easier for this person to get to their final destination, but ultimately, it's up to the person driving to make that decision. And yes, there will be collisions from time time and fender benders while we drive our course, but the important thing to remember is, IT'S YOUR COURSE! Course signifying your life!
And, let's not forget just because you see someone's chosen course and it seems so perfect and great, it doesn't exactly mean you will be able to duplicate where that driven person has gone. Everyone's course, while we all have the same destination in mind, may vastly differ from the road that you're on, and trust me when I tell you, don't always believe that the grass is greener on the other side, because what works for some drivers, most certainly may not work for you!
I love the saying "Do You!" Because it's a true statement. What we as individuals need to focus on is where we see ourselves, where do we want to go, and make a plan and execute it, and stop worrying about what someone else is doing! Another person's destiny isn't necessarily the destiny you should be on and visa versa. Stay on YOUR course, and worry about what obstacles are coming your way, while you drive through this course called life! When you realize you made a wrong turn and have gotten off the beaten path, don't be so quick to blame someone else, look at the person who was steering the vehicle~~YOU!
Remember fellow gamers, you may point the finger all you want, but never forget that there are 3 fingers pointing right back atcha! You may think you've won and feel all big and special, but eventually, the evil you do to someone else, will always come back to you~~This I guarantee! You truly reap what you sow!
In closing, with the new year only a month away, take some time to reflect back on this fast year, look deeply at yourself in the mirror and see what your reflection says about YOU! Do you like what you see? And if the answser is NO, then you need to make some positive changes and get on the right road, so you may bring the new year in fresh and fully charged! This is my truth~~plain and simple!
Happy Holidays!
I've penned today the "Blame Game!" I guess what always baffles me is when others make mistakes, it's so easy to point the finger at someone else, but the one thing that most individuals who play this game fail to realize is, three fingers are pointing back at YOU!
So, fans, I ask, why do we partake in the Blame Game? One reason is because most people don't like responsibility, much less, own up to it! Why, when you make a mistake, someone will actually see that you're human, and you may be viewed as weak, so therefore, I must blame someone else for my mistakes and problems, right?
In order for you to feel justified in your being, most people resort to blaming others with their shortcomings! So, if blaming someone else makes YOU feel big, what exactly does that make you? Full? Yes, full of yourself, full of an overinflated ego, full of excrament, perhaps? Remember, small-minded folks who enjoy playing the blame game, all games come to an end, eventually! YOU may THINK you're doing something great by placing all your faults on someone else, but sooner or later, all will be revealed, and YOU will be forced to deal with your responsibility.
I am one of those people who believe that you control the destiny in which you drive. I believe that by the choices you make, good or otherwise, all have a way of leading you to a road which may be fruitful, or a road that may be deadly! There are obstacles that are purposely thrown in your way, while you go down the path you've chosen, I believe, to teach you life's lessons, and we're all, somehow, being tested by God to see how well we received our lesson and what we've learned. Some learn from their mistakes, while others, aren't so lucky! And those not so lucky, get angry with us because we've found a path that is working~~these are your road rage drivers in life, or a word I love even better ~~your haters!
Which brings me to my next point. Not only do we, as humans, place blame on others that is undeserved, we also judge others by our own standards! What may excite me and I find to be enjoyment, someone else may think it's totally insane and ridiculous, but at the end of the day, whatever gets you down your path, why should it matter what someone else thinks, right?
Well apparently, I must be wrong, because so many of us judge each other all day long. We gossip and talk about people and say what we would and wouldn't do, when again, you don't know what path someone else is on and why they have chosen to go down the road they are headed. Sure you may see another way that may appear easier for this person to get to their final destination, but ultimately, it's up to the person driving to make that decision. And yes, there will be collisions from time time and fender benders while we drive our course, but the important thing to remember is, IT'S YOUR COURSE! Course signifying your life!
And, let's not forget just because you see someone's chosen course and it seems so perfect and great, it doesn't exactly mean you will be able to duplicate where that driven person has gone. Everyone's course, while we all have the same destination in mind, may vastly differ from the road that you're on, and trust me when I tell you, don't always believe that the grass is greener on the other side, because what works for some drivers, most certainly may not work for you!
I love the saying "Do You!" Because it's a true statement. What we as individuals need to focus on is where we see ourselves, where do we want to go, and make a plan and execute it, and stop worrying about what someone else is doing! Another person's destiny isn't necessarily the destiny you should be on and visa versa. Stay on YOUR course, and worry about what obstacles are coming your way, while you drive through this course called life! When you realize you made a wrong turn and have gotten off the beaten path, don't be so quick to blame someone else, look at the person who was steering the vehicle~~YOU!
Remember fellow gamers, you may point the finger all you want, but never forget that there are 3 fingers pointing right back atcha! You may think you've won and feel all big and special, but eventually, the evil you do to someone else, will always come back to you~~This I guarantee! You truly reap what you sow!
In closing, with the new year only a month away, take some time to reflect back on this fast year, look deeply at yourself in the mirror and see what your reflection says about YOU! Do you like what you see? And if the answser is NO, then you need to make some positive changes and get on the right road, so you may bring the new year in fresh and fully charged! This is my truth~~plain and simple!
Happy Holidays!
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