Saturday, December 19, 2009

It's Beginning to Look A Lot Like~~Oops, Shut Your Mouth. . .

With Christmas just six days away, it's very important, and I cannot stress this enough, that you do NOT forget what this Holiday is all about! It's NOT just about giving gifts or receiving them, it's about celebrating Jesus Christ's birthday. And to me, there is no better gift to give, than giving of oneself, and we should NOT just give because of December 25, we should be giving ALL YEAR ROUND! As I mentioned in previous blogs.  Try as hard as you might to begin living Christmas!

Which brings me to a topic that has been bothering me for quite some time, and I thought it might be on the minds of some of you, so here it goes, and I'd love to hear your opinions!

As of the last 15 years or so, there have been two words that really drive me absolutely nuts~~so much so these words infuriate me, and burns my soul to the very core, and those two words are 'politically correct!" First of all, anything dealing with the word "politics" begins to make my eyebrow pulsate, so when people say to me, politically correct, my vein in my neck begins to pop!

For years during this time of the year, I enjoyed telling my family, friends and co-workers, "Merry Christmas!" And people, in kind would say the words back. It was a much happier time in my life, and a kind gesture to state to fellow human beings. And then all of a sudden, some wise ass decided that they were "offended" by the use of the words "Merry Christmas" and so it has become a thing of the past to even dare think the words, much less say them. And the retailers and businesses wonder why their sales are down? Hmmm, it couldn't be just because people have less money to spend, maybe it has a little something to do with being politically correct.  Follow and take a little journey with me, if you will!

Okay, humor me fans, for just a moment. I mean come on, am I the only one that doesn't feel in the Christmas mood as of recent years? And it's not just because the world is one big ball of mess, but people have really made me hate this holiday season, and I didn't always feel that way. How about you?

First, the government tells us that in order to respect everyone's religions and holiday beliefs, we shouldn't say "Merry Christmas," but instead say 'Happy Holidays!' And if that wasn't bad enough, most of our jobs have adopted the same attitude. We're told you can't put up anything that signifies "Christmas," but rather put up festive decorations that any holiday could respect. Hmmm, really?

A friend shared with me that at her job, she put up some snowflakes and candy cane cardboard decorations and she was called into the office because the HR Dept. stated that the candy canes could be viewed as a symbol of "Christmas," so she was ordered, please note, not asked, to take the candy canes down, but the snowflakes could stay up! Wow, really? I didn't know candy canes were considered "Christmas?" Did you?

Another friend of mine had a beautiful one line sentence that read, 'Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, God Bless" which tagged on her email underneath her name, and she was called into the office by HR and told that she had to immediately, and they didn't mean when she felt like it, remove the words "Merry Christmas" and "God Bless" from under her name, and if she refused to do it, she would be fired! Amazing, fans, don't you think?

So, pardon, me if I appear to be a little Buh Humbug-ish, but with places of employment removing Merry Christmas and the government removing "Merry Christmas" what the hell is the point in celebrating the damn holiday anymore?  I mean, come on, for most of my life I was able to celebrate my Holiday of Christmas, and now I'm forced to whisper to my co-workers, "Merry Christmas" and be extremely mindful of how loud I'm saying it and who the hell is lurking around so I don't get in trouble because I said it!  Here's what I want someone to tell me, where the hell did my rights go for ME celebrating my holiday?  Can someone answer that question for me~~any takers on that?  Since when does everyone else get the right to celebrate what they enjoy, and now Christmas is offensive, since when?

And people have the audacity to wonder what is wrong with this world anymore?  Just look around you, folks, and it's not too hard to figure out~~it's not an exact science here!  This used to be the time of year I looked forward too~~sending out my Christmas cards, and going to family functions and spending time with good friends and reflecting back on the year we had, and now when this time of the year rolls around, I don't even care about it!  The only thing that keeps me somewhat focused is Jesus, himself.  I remember Christ and that lessens my anger some!  I try to think that Christ wouldn't want me to feel this way, so I try to be respectful and mindful of that, but who the heck is mindful of how I feel about being a Christian?

I'm so sick and tired of these do-gooder, so called doosh-bags telling me what I'm supposed to think, feel and say!  Separation of Church and State, take God off of our currency, take God off of anything where He resides, which is everywhere, folks, in case you didn't know, but yet, I'm supposed to forget about my holiday~~I don't get to rejoice in Christ's birthday or utter the words all because some idiot says it offends them!

Well, I tell you what, it offends ME that I can't celebrate and say my holiday aloud as I used to do for so many years.  It offends ME that people are so caught up in their own little worlds, that they don't take the time to consider how others feel!  I'm offended that businesses have systematically turned Christmas into a billion-dollar a year industry and tossed out the true meaning of why we celebrate His birthday!  I'm offended, I'm offended, I'm offended!  But guess what, no one gives a damn that I am.  My words are just that on a blog, but what laws did I break for you, because you may not believe like I believe? 

These are the same individuals who cannot do anything about the real problems that plague our communities, like health care, loss of jobs, homelessness, people without food, kids who cannot afford to get a good quality education, higher taxes, property taxes, etc., but YOU can make damn sure I can't use the words "Merry Christmas!"  I tell ya, you've got to love this Country!  (HA!!!)  You can take the words "politically correct" and shove it up 'politically WRONG'S' ass~~how about that!

So, fans, I say this, I wish each and every one of you a very Merry Christmas and a wonderful New Year, and may God Bless You All!  In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen!

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

A New Leaf. . .

There are those of us who are go getters, the movers and shakers, and the 'get-'er-done type folks, and then there are those who prey on your hard work, tag along on your coat-tails, and sit back and enjoy the ride.  Also known as your "freeloaders!" 

This has been the craziest, most wildest year, I've experienced in many, many years, and I'm so thankful for it.  I have been reconnected with some old friends, and have made quite a few new ones, and again, I'm thankful because of it.

I've decided to start practicing my New Year's Resolutions, early, because there is no time like the present!  Now that I'm reflecting a lot, because I do that every December, the lessons I've learned in this year is going to jumpstart the coming year. 

First, my biggest hurdle to get over is trying to forgive those who do not wish me well.  Forgiving is one of the hardest things for an individual to do, especially me, because I'm one that once you cross me, that was once too many times, so you don't get a second chance to screw me over again.  So, fans, I'm practicing this, but it's extremely difficult for me.  (Pray for me ~~ chuckle)!

Second, my next hurdle to get over is to stop worrying over every single damn thing in my life!  Worry, worry, worry is all I do, so I've decided that instead of worrying, I will replace worry with prayer.  Every time I feel myself about to worry, I pray to God and ask Him to help me stay strong.  I've been doing this now for the last 6 weeks and I'm finding it's working out great!  I noticed that when I stopped worrying over everything, a lot of the stress I once felt has dissipated and I feel so much better and lighter!  Worry weighs you down, so I'm not going to do it anymore.  I've also learned that everything usually turns out okay anyway, so why did I give myself an ulcer over worry?  Hmmm?

Third, I've began my spring cleaning early, and no, fans, I'm not talking about cleaning my physical home, I'm talking about cleansing my spirit by getting rid of negative thoughts and removing negative people from my life.  My mind works very much like a computer, and I've been thinking over this year and every single person I've come in contact with, stored in memory, and those that mean me well, will stay apart of my file, but those who mean me harm, I've deleted those files, to never be restored from my recycle bin.  I've wiped the hard drive clean, and this feels absolutely great!

Lastly, I will continue to stay focused and keep my eyes on the prize because yes, there is a prize waiting for me!  Anything that does not fit into my new way of thinking will be forever cast from my files.  I will continue to record all that happens around me, but the minute a virus tries to intercept, my spam filter will be doing the trick destroying the virus before it even has a chance to break through.

So fans, these are my new leaves I'm turning over and have already put into place.  My only hurdle for 2010 will be to continue to execute my programs and stick with them.  I am much wiser, I've learned a great many things from 2009, and I plan to keep those things in my notes for future reference~~so that, if any viruses try to plague my existence, I will recognize the signs, because hackers are very good at what they do.  They can immitate just about anything to make it appear real, but when you click and open, you've spread poison all through your files, and destroyed your PC in the process. 

In closing, beware of the hackers out here, and if you haven't figured by now, hackers are not the only ones that sit by and write programs to destroy your computers.  There are ALL types of hackers, and you might want to check your PCs to see what you need to get rid of, because every file you download isn't what it appears to be!

This is my truth, Plain and Simple!  Happy Reading!

Friday, December 11, 2009

The "Small" Things. . .

All of my life I always felt that I was different from others.  As I reflect back on my childhood all the way up to my adult life, it's amazing to me how much I've changed, not only in appearances, but in my mindset.  What I once thought was important in life, I've now come to learn those things really don't matter.

One thing that used to always bother me was why I was so envied and hated by so many of my peers.  For as nice as I am, my thinking was, what is there not to like?  I'm a nice person, and I'm good to people, so why do people not like me?  I was ridiculed as a child by my peers.  I was ridiculed as a teenager by my peers, and unfortunately, I have been ridiculed as an adult by my peers, and the burning question, once again, has been, why?  What did this little 4'11" person ever do to make people dislike me? 

I had to think back to my childhood to get the answer, and it struck me like a knock-out punch.  Some people have treated me this way because I am different and because I exist.  Yes, fans, can you believe that, I've been mistreated by many for the mere simple reason that I am in the world!  May be hard to believe, but oh how true this is!

I've chronicled my entire life through journals, and while reading some very painful entries, especially through my childhood, I remember an incident I got into with another school kid.  We were fighting, something I always found distasteful, but a necessary evil toward my own survival, and it just so happened that a police officer appeared to break up the altercation.  When the officer asked the girl I was fighting why are you harboring so much hate toward this little girl, (I will never ever forget her response), she said, "I hate Kim cause, just because I hate her!"  The officer raised an eyebrow and looked at her and then to me.  By this time, my mother came down to see what was going on, and the officer said to her, "This child really hates that your daughter exists!  My goodness she bears watching!"

I was hated for merely living!  Wow, that's more startling to me today than it was over 30 something odd years ago!  My mother used to tell me your little girlfriends don't like you.  While your back is turned, they are sneering at you.  I asked my mother countless times, why mom, why?  I'm a nice person.  She said it was jealously!  I learned about the green-eyed monster at a very early age.  Mom told me that I was different in that I had something special that others could see, and hated me for it because they wish they had it.  So as I began to grow up, I pondered over what was "it" that I had that some didn't possess?  And why was "it" given to me?

I still cannot answer that question, but I learned a great many things from "it!"  So now that I'm an author, a huge feat and accomplishment in and of itself, my "it" factor is beginning to glow, as well as the green eyes that have always plagued my existence.  The one thing that most of the people who don't like me don't seem to get is, the more you fight against my very existence, the stronger you will me to live!  For many years, I thought I walked alone?  I felt all by myself because I was made to feel this way by so many of my peers, and now that I'm stone grown, I see nothing has changed at all, except my thinking!

Which brings me to the crux of this Blog!  Last night, I had my Wine & Cheese Release Party, and all day, prior to the event, I was so nervous.  I kept saying to myself, no one will show, don't nobody care, this is gonna be a huge waste of everyone's time, and why am I bothering, much less struggling to make it as an author, when no one seems to understand my true passion for writing?  People RSVP'd and said they were coming, and I studied that list over and over, wondering, hmmm, will these people actually show?  I had a burning sensation in the pit of my stomach, and I was terrified for what I was about to embark upon.

And then "it" happened!  There were ladies everywhere getting their hair done looking all fly, and I'm like well they are just here for that!  WRONG!  Yes, they did come to get their hair done, but they also came to support this sista!  Lil ole me, the one that is so hated by many!  And if that didn't drop my jaw enough, my three best friends came out to support me, and entertained everyone in Fahrenheit and enjoyed themselves along the way!  They helped drum up business for me, which was AWESOME!

I even had some surprising guests who graced me with their presence~~The President and CEO of Hill House Association, Mr. Evan Frasier, and his Associate, Martin Prentice.  Mr. Frazier is an author himself and gave me a personally signed copy and bought a copy of mine, as did Mr. Prentice.  I was totally blown away and extremely shocked that they came out to support me.  They gave me many props and wished me well.  Anton Williams, Michael A. Smith and Eric Epps are three of the nicest men you will ever meet.  They gave much love and support to me throughout this entire grueling process and they encourage me to continue to follow my dreams!  I love you guys!

In closing, at the end of the day, I realized what matters most to me.  It's not what people say with their mouths, and all the empty promises people give you to make a great selling pitch, and it's not all the B.S. that people spout just because they think that's what you want to hear, and it's not about what I can do for them or what they can get out of the deal, "it" is the small things that mattered.  They were there solely to support ME!  They were there because they love me and want to see me do well.  And for me, that's all I need.  I no longer care about how much someone doesn't like me, nor do I give a damn if I'm hated by many just because I'm doing what I love to do, because my existence isn't about YOU, it's about ME and what God has in his Plan!  As everyone told me last night, you are going to make it and we're glad to know you.  To hear people I never knew tell me that they are glad to know me, more than adequately makes up for all the horrible, rotten things people have said and done to me!

I am loved and respected and, that folks, pretty much sums it up!  God placed the right people in my path and blessed me, and I thank you Lord! 

MERRY CHRISTMAS, fans!  Happy Reading! 

Saturday, December 5, 2009

'Tis The Season to be. . .

Nuts!!!  I've always been a person who stays up on the latest world events, but as of late, I have had to stop reading reports and I sensor myself from the local news.  Why, you ask?  Because each and every day I turn on my television, all I ever hear is negative news stories that completely boggle my mind.

Case in point, the story of the 55-year old man at Wal-Mart who cold cocked a 72-year old Wal-Mart greeter in his face for apparently NO REASON at all.  Just when I think I've heard and see it all, at the age of only 41, people almost always prove me wrong!  What the hell has happened to humankind?

This man lays in the hospital with a broken jaw along with broken dentures that were cracked to millions of pieces.  Even as a writer, I can't keep up with the crazy things that humans do to one another.  I watched this man just punch this older man in the face for nothing.  What in this world would possess a human being to do this to another?

And if that weren't enough, a woman and a friend of hers were leaving a mall complex and her estranged husband walked right up to her and shot her and killed the man that was with her.  One spectator reported that this man just shot the guy execution-style like he had no care at all in the world.  Turns out, the alleged perpetrator was served his divorce papers weeks prior and his estranged wife was out with a "friend", who was merely just a friend, and the husband thought otherwise, and now a man's life has ended, the man accused of committing this act will most likely go to jail, his children are now fatherless, and all because he can't handle that his wife is leaving him.

But, the story that really got me this week, was the father with the triplets, who, he claimed they were playing by the stairs and fell.  Two-year old triplets playing by stairs~~hmmm, that didn't sound right from the moment those words left the reporter's mouth, and then the story changed overnight and it was reported that the father had caused the injuries to his children, (now that sounded more feasible, but, that shouldn't be logical, now should it?) which now one of the triplets has since died!

One thing all these stories have in common, other than how tragic they are, is that they prove that some human's souls are broken!  It's sad, but true.  There are so many broken hearted soul-less people walking around~~soul-less zombies, just committing whatever acts they can to hold on to some sense of reality, even if that reality is hurting others.  No matter if they are looking for their 15-minutes-of-fame or just because they are depressed, crazy, idiotic, soul-less, people are committing heinous acts, and there doesn't appear to be an end in sight to all this madness!

If life has thrown you a bad curve ball, it doesn't give you the right to go out here and lose your damn mind and hurt other people because your life isn't what it should be!  I repeat, just because life isn't going the way you want it to, doesn't give YOU the right to hurt others or take other's lives because you're hurting!

Hell, if I took that attitude, there wouldn't be many people living!  I think of all the things I've had to endure in my life, and although they were horrible tramautic situations I had to get through, I didn't take my pain out on anyone, nor myself!  Fans, this goes back to what I stated in my previous blog, that people don't own up to their responsibilities.  Some people think it's quite alright to go out here and commit crime and hurt others because they are doing without.  It doesn't make it right!

I know America's ecomony still sucks, and I don't think there is anyone in the world who can help this situation, but be that as it may, I remain optimistic, and hopeful.  There are those trying hard like hell to get rid of God out of everything, and, I might add, are succeeding, and you wonder why the stories I mentioned above are happening today? 

The Holidays can be a magical time for many of us, but there are many who suffer terribly from depression!
If you are having thoughts of suicide, or thinking about hurting someone, YOU need to get help, and I don't mean that in a joking manner, I mean it seriously!!  Depression affects millions of Americans, even when the Holidays aren't in play, so be on the lookout for people who don't appear to be themselves.  It is quite alright to seek help when you can't help yourself.  No one will laugh at you for admitting that you are having a rough time. 

In closing, keeping in line with the Holiday theme, if you or someone you know is having problems with depression or grief, below are some helpful websites.  I wish all of my fans, a safe and Happy Holiday Season, because I would like to see you all in future years to come.  Here's to Health and Well-Being!  God Bless~~Happy Reading!

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

The 'Blame Game'. . .

Today was one of those days where all that could have gone wrong most certainly did, and, to add insult to injury, it was the kind of day where I should have been upset, crying, stomping my feet and cussing up a storm, but instead, I remained calm.

I've penned today the "Blame Game!" I guess what always baffles me is when others make mistakes, it's so easy to point the finger at someone else, but the one thing that most individuals who play this game fail to realize is, three fingers are pointing back at YOU!

So, fans, I ask, why do we partake in the Blame Game? One reason is because most people don't like responsibility, much less, own up to it! Why, when you make a mistake, someone will actually see that you're human, and you may be viewed as weak, so therefore, I must blame someone else for my mistakes and problems, right?

In order for you to feel justified in your being, most people resort to blaming others with their shortcomings! So, if blaming someone else makes YOU feel big, what exactly does that make you? Full? Yes, full of yourself, full of an overinflated ego, full of excrament, perhaps? Remember, small-minded folks who enjoy playing the blame game, all games come to an end, eventually! YOU may THINK you're doing something great by placing all your faults on someone else, but sooner or later, all will be revealed, and YOU will be forced to deal with your responsibility.

I am one of those people who believe that you control the destiny in which you drive. I believe that by the choices you make, good or otherwise, all have a way of leading you to a road which may be fruitful, or a road that may be deadly! There are obstacles that are purposely thrown in your way, while you go down the path you've chosen, I believe, to teach you life's lessons, and we're all, somehow, being tested by God to see how well we received our lesson and what we've learned. Some learn from their mistakes, while others, aren't so lucky! And those not so lucky, get angry with us because we've found a path that is working~~these are your road rage drivers in life, or a word I love even better ~~your haters!

Which brings me to my next point. Not only do we, as humans, place blame on others that is undeserved, we also judge others by our own standards! What may excite me and I find to be enjoyment, someone else may think it's totally insane and ridiculous, but at the end of the day, whatever gets you down your path, why should it matter what someone else thinks, right?

Well apparently, I must be wrong, because so many of us judge each other all day long. We gossip and talk about people and say what we would and wouldn't do, when again, you don't know what path someone else is on and why they have chosen to go down the road they are headed. Sure you may see another way that may appear easier for this person to get to their final destination, but ultimately, it's up to the person driving to make that decision. And yes, there will be collisions from time time and fender benders while we drive our course, but the important thing to remember is, IT'S YOUR COURSE! Course signifying your life!

And, let's not forget just because you see someone's chosen course and it seems so perfect and great, it doesn't exactly mean you will be able to duplicate where that driven person has gone. Everyone's course, while we all have the same destination in mind, may vastly differ from the road that you're on, and trust me when I tell you, don't always believe that the grass is greener on the other side, because what works for some drivers, most certainly may not work for you!

I love the saying "Do You!" Because it's a true statement. What we as individuals need to focus on is where we see ourselves, where do we want to go, and make a plan and execute it, and stop worrying about what someone else is doing! Another person's destiny isn't necessarily the destiny you should be on and visa versa. Stay on YOUR course, and worry about what obstacles are coming your way, while you drive through this course called life! When you realize you made a wrong turn and have gotten off the beaten path, don't be so quick to blame someone else, look at the person who was steering the vehicle~~YOU!

Remember fellow gamers, you may point the finger all you want, but never forget that there are 3 fingers pointing right back atcha! You may think you've won and feel all big and special, but eventually, the evil you do to someone else, will always come back to you~~This I guarantee! You truly reap what you sow!

In closing, with the new year only a month away, take some time to reflect back on this fast year, look deeply at yourself in the mirror and see what your reflection says about YOU! Do you like what you see? And if the answser is NO, then you need to make some positive changes and get on the right road, so you may bring the new year in fresh and fully charged! This is my truth~~plain and simple!

Happy Holidays!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

In the Spirit of Giving. . .

It's hard to believe that this year is coming near a close. It seemed liked yesterday we were carving turkeys, singing Christmas carols and celebrating the holiday season, and yet, here we are again! Time truly waits for no one, and it's so important that you spend each second of your day doing something worthwhile because in a blink of an eye, your life can change!

Now is the time to reflect what you've done throughout the year and evaluate the good, the bad and the ugly. Once you've made your assessment, this is a great time to start thinking about making positive changes in your life for the coming year ahead! With that in mind, I cannot stress enough to my fans that it's important that YOU do not forget what the true meaning of Christmas is.

I have already heard many of my friends and coworkers buzzing about Black Friday and all the sales, and getting up at 2 and 3 a.m. to hit all the stores and get the best bargains. Please know that I do not judge anyone who partakes in such activities, but I feel as though I have to share my view of the situation.

You will NOT catch me in the stores on Black Friday. You will NOT catch me in any of the stores looking for that special gift, fighting for parking spots, pushing and shoving to get inside the store to buy gifts that I cannot afford. No, no, you will not find me doing any of those things. Why, you ask? Well, it's simple, I live Christmas everyday, and there's nothing in any store you could possibly buy me that will make up for what I give each and everyday of myself.

What the hell am I talking about, you ask? I'm talking about I do something constructive, I reach out to someone, anyone, on any given day to assist my fellow brothers and sisters to help enrich their lives. Why, what kind of gift is that, you may ask? Giving of myself to help others makes me feel good inside, and not only does it make me feel good, it makes the person I'm helping feel good about themselves and restores their faith in humanity that there are people out here that care and will still lend a helping hand when necessary!

I donate money where I can, although I don't have much. I give food to those who can't afford to eat, even when sometimes I have gone without. I have assisted some in paying bills they couldn't afford, because they were down on their luck, or have been out of work for long periods of time. I listen to people when they need to vent or cry because life is getting them down. I take care of my mother when she needs it most, and help her whenever and in whatever way I can. Wherever God places me, I make sure to try to live my life in the best way possible and utilize my skills in whatever way God feels necessary, so that I may spread his message of giving. And you ask, what do I get in return?

A clear conscience, a good night's sleep, a stronger heart, a purpose for living and being thankful that the Lord saw fit to allow me to see yet another day, even when I'm so dog tired and don't want to go anymore, I am thankful to my Almighty! Don't get me wrong, I love Christmas just like the next person, but my view of Christmas is vastly different than the commercialized materialism Christmas that most tend to enjoy.

I'm happy to be with family and friends, just sitting back chilling, and I don't need a gift under my tree because spending quality time with those who matter most to me, is gift enough, and isn't that truly what the meaning of Christmas is? The types of gifts I give you can't place a price tag on it. I am Black Friday~~what I give you cannot buy in a store, there's no pushing or shoving here, and you don't have to kill each other for that parking space. No, what I give comes from within and is much deeper and rich than any gift you can buy.

And for those of you who have children and may say, this all sounds good for maybe an adult, but kids wouldn't understand this! My answer to you would be, you need to make sure you preach the real true meaning of Christmas to them, so that they don't put so much emphasis on gifts and "what am I getting," because let's face it, that's not the real meaning. You need to set boundaries on what you will spend on your children and not go above your means. Why charge gifts on a credit card, but you don't have food on the table, or struggling to pay your rent each month or mortgage, or possibly behind on a car note. When you put gifts above a roof over your head and food on your table, then I have to ask, was it worth it to you, and do you REALLY believe this is what God wants you to do?

In closing, I only ask that people spend responsibly, and think about what is most important to you! If those gifts under the tree means more to you than your daily survival, then God Bless ya, and I hope that continues to work out for you! Why not volunteer to work in a food bank this holiday season, donate some old clothes that are worn, but still wearable. Check up on your senior citizens and see if they need anything, sit down at the table every night with your children and find out how their day is and what's going on in their lives, put away those ipods, cell phones, Playstations, etc. and talk with your children and see what's on their mind. Meditate, smell the fresh air, spend quality time with yourself for about 30 minutes a day and reflect on the day~~it keeps the mind healthy. Take time to appreciate what YOU have, instead of worrying about what you don't!

Whatever you do, enjoy this Holiday season and be thankful that you're still here! Trust me, it can always be worse~~so count all your blessings the Lord gives you EACH and EVERYDAY and learn to be more of a giving person instead of being greedy always wanting, because what I've learned is that by living Christmas everyday, blessings are bestowed upon me without my asking the Lord for anything~~HE blesses me, and I'm thankful to Him for that! God is Good, and why not try to live up to the image that He has set upon us to do!

Many blessings to you and yours! Have a safe and Happy Thanksgiving!

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Just "My Blogging" Thoughts. . .

In past blogs, I've mentioned what writing means to me, how it impacts my life, and how serious I take the written word. I've wondered just what else could I possibly say about writing, other than it's a grueling creative process that takes on many different forms.

I think of the thousand of hours I spent writing MELLO & JUNE. Many have asked how long did it take you to write it? And, the answer is, four months. That may seem pretty quick, and it is, but you have to realize that I can type up to 200 wpm when I'm in the zone, so it takes nothing for me to bang out a novel, once I gather my research material and get my creative juices to flowing.

Also, I've been asked by many when did I find the time to write, and the answer to that is, every single free minute I have, I write! I never leave time undone. I make sure to do something in my time that is creative. When I sleep, I sometimes dream of storylines, and I'll wake up and write those dreams down, and they come in handy later on in a chapter.

Another thing, as a writer, that I always do is observe! Those that know me know that I got a mouth on me that will not quit, but I also learned there is a time and place for everything, so if I'm not cussing somebody out, I'm observing what happens around me, and I use that material later to write about. The tinest, smallest thing you see happening around you, you may think means nothing, but I take that and write it down. I keep a notepad with me at all times, because life happens always, and I get some really great material from just watching YOU!

Which brings me to MELLO & JUNE! Mello is comprised of men that I was involved with at various times in my life. Every characteristic you learn about Mello, I took something from each of my Ex's to bring him to life! Every character you meet in this love story are people I know personally--which is why the women and men who have read it really identify with the characters, because I made sure to make them as real as possible.

For those of you who have purchased MELLO & JUNE, I thank you for emails, calls and texts of how much you are enjoying the book, how easy it is to follow, and how descriptive it is. I'm very thrilled to hear that my readers are really feeling the book! I knew this would be the reaction, once people started reading it. Not to toot my own horn, but I know this is a great story, not just because I wrote it (most humbling of smiles), but because it's original and different, which is what sets my writing style apart from other writers!

If you enjoy theatre, plays, music, poetry and storytelling, then my novel is a must-have book! MELLO & JUNE is on sale now by going to or by calling my publisher direct at 1-888-795-4274 (answers 24/7)! And, with the Holidays here, what better gift to give to your avid reader~~one that has all the drama and spice you can handle! Happy Reading!

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Do you realize that without writers, the world would be a very boring place to live? When you are watching a movie, watching your favorite TV show, enjoying that funny commercial you like, reading those instructions for that item you purchased that says, "some assembly required," even watching your favorite 'reality show', because let's face it, reality shows are scripted, listening to your favorite music, it took a writer to bring all that entertainment to you!

Writers are a necessary vice to the world we live in. Without communication, what kind of language would we speak? Everything we do requires the written word, which is why I always say it's important to respect the words you speak and write. This is the reason I've always been intrigued with writing. It's mind blowing to me, when I think this deeply, that everything we do requires a form of reading and writing, and some of us are better at it than others, but it's an important thing we must all do.

What I love most about writing is that it's the only place where I am in total control. No one can tell me not to make this character do this or that, and no one can tell me that character shouldn't say this or that, I'm in full control over what I am doing, and it's something that no one can take away from me, which is why I love doing it. It's my thoughts, it's my creativity, it's all me, and I love it.

The travesty, I find, is that our children today don't have an imagination. They take what other writers give them through their Playstation, XBOX and Nintendo games, and believe this is the world they would like to reside in, but where's their imagination. As a child, I used to lay out in the grass and look up at the sky and dream all sorts of things. Children don't play and use their imagination. We as parents need to make our children read, so they can expand their impressionable minds, and encourage positive thoughts so that they may one day grow up to become great writers and bring about a positive change to our world. Because after all, if you don't fill their heads up with positive messages, how can you expect them to bring about positive change?

The same holds true for adults. When your soul craves some intellectual stimulation, curling up with a great book can cure what ails you! And, with the Holidays just weeks away, why not give your avid reader something they can enjoy, or begin to create an avid reader, by purchasing my new novel, MELLO & JUNE, a Musical Romance Soundtrack Novel! This book has 24 R&B song titles as song chapters that tell this love story as you rewind and listen to the track of their lives.

And, you will learn some things about control, manipulation, love, loss, pain and freedom along the way, while you read this old school album! To purchase your copy, go to or call 1-888-795-4274 (answers 24/7). DON'T DELAY, order your copy today! God bless, and Happy Reading!

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Many people have been asking me where did I get the idea to write the love story of MELLO & JUNE? Well, it all started about three years ago. I was sitting on my couch, drinking a glass of wine, and my husband was about to leave for work that night, and he came over and gave me a kiss on my forehead, as he sometimes does, and he rolled.

After he left, I began thinking back to different men I had been involved with over the years. Some might say, "why would you be thinking of other relationships, right after your husband left?" It's simple really, I was feeling so blessed to have found such a wonderful man. While I began going back in my mind, I realized that God had sent me an Angel. There are many people who think they know me, that think they know my journey, my struggles, my pain and my sorrows, but they don't.

I realized tonight, after speaking with a long-time friend, that there are many people who just aren't happy for your success. And most certainly, not happy that you have someone in your life that is about YOU! Unfortunately, I've dealt with some horrible men, but at the time when I met these men, I had no idea they would turn out to be so wrong for me. It wasn't until I got married, that I realized just how truly blessed I am!

So, I decided to write a book about some situations I found myself in. How I took that pain and built a story out of it! A few people who have had the fortunate pleasure of reading MELLO & JUNE, loved it so much, they want a sequel, but the story ends where it ends, much like the way I ended my relationships!

My reason for writing this story is a simple one, it was time to be told. I wanted to release some negative energy that had been plaguing my soul for many, many years. The funny part about it is, I've always known that this story would be written, I just didn't have a clue as to when! MELLO & JUNE took me twenty years to write, and that was all due in part, I wasn't ready!

So you may find yourself asking, "is this story based on your life?" And the answer would be, in some ways, but not all! After all, I'm a storyteller, and I know exactly what spice to put into a novel to demand a reader to turn the page and keep you wanting more! And MELLO & JUNE definitely pulls you in! Their 50 year history is an incredible journey!

As you go through their lives, you may find yourself thinking about relationships you were in, or, currently in! This story will make you think and reflect on your own behavior! In life, there will always be conflict, ups and downs and highs and lows!

With that, in closing, MELLO & JUNE was a burden I carried for a long time! Once I released my thoughts onto the laptop, I immediately let go and felt better. It's funny, because I thought that I was over some of that drama I had once dealt with, but I guess you always carry around some bitterness, when you really dig deep down and think! To my readers and fans, I certainly hope you enjoy the story, as much as I enjoyed creating chaos for my characters! Those that you meet along the way in the book, you will immediately connect because they are so real!

One thing is for certain, dreams really do come true ~~ with a little hardwork and determination, and with God on your side, all things are possible! MELLO & JUNE is ON SALE NOW, or by calling 1-888-795-4274. Pick up your copy today! Happy Reading!

Saturday, October 31, 2009

MELLO & JUNE, Musical Romance Soundtrack Novel goes on sale today, Saturday, October 31, 2009!

My lifelong dream is no longer a dream, but a reality that has taken many, many years in the making. I'm a new voice to the writing scene and one that I hope will be heard for several years to come! My writing style reads like a movie or a well-written play. I've often been asked who I would compare myself to, now that I'm a published author, and my answer would have to be, not anyone. I personally don't like to compare myself to others -- I've always been about doing 'me' and not anyone else! I'm very confident in the skin I'm in!

I'm positive you will find my writing style to be unique in that I enjoy incorporating all my passions into any novel I write, that is, music, poetry, drama and storytelling. Yes, I've written several novels through the years, but lacked the dedication to see it through. Well, I'm another year older now, and much wiser than I used to be, and I decided instead of waiting on someone else to recognize my talent, why should I wait? God has truly blessed me with the gift of words, and it is those words that I take careful consideration in how I use them.

Often times, I tell people you really need to be careful what you say to others because your words are truly mightier than the sword. Words can uplift you, they can cut you, they can harm you, they can mold and shape you, but most of all, words are lasting! Once you plant the seeds of words out into the open space, those words grow into something much bigger than you and me. Through writing, I've learned to respect the power of words and I definitely enjoy using and playing with them to set up whatever chaos my heart so desires.

It is that passion which drives me to see a story through. Once I make up in my head what I want to write about, the words just filter through me like water flows from a faucet. There are times I'm so in the zone whereas I don't even realize I'm the one controlling the vessel of my own ship, and that gives me an added high that no pharmaceutical company could ever reproduce. This is what words mean to me, this is what writing does for my soul, and it is with that passion and dedication which brings my stories to life!

For those of you who knew me from waaay back in the day, I'm talking grade school age, many of you remember the short stories and plays I wrote. Even at that tender age, I was always writing something. So in closing, I would like to say, I'm striving, not only to make it as a writer, but I want to be read. What is the point of me taking the time to express what I feel inside with the care and precision of my artistry, if no one cared what my stories had to say? I not only write drama, but there is always a lesson to be learned, and this is what you will most definitely, without a doubt, come away with when you read the love story of Mello & June!

June was a struggling writer herself, but she lacked the true passion to get herself together, due to some horrific event that happened in her life. She needed to live and experience more so she could be that great writer she aspired to be. However, on the other hand, Mello, too, experienced trauma in his world, and chose a different path and lease on life. When opposites attract, it can be explosive, which is what you will find out!

Mello & June is available for purchase at,, Barnes & Noble (order desk), Borders (order desk), and Hint, to get the best price, you'll save by ordering through my website, however, you have a choice of the hard cover or soft, hell, buy them both! With the Holidays just weeks away, Mello & June will make a great gift for your avid reader! I hope you enjoy the story, as much as I enjoyed writing it. Pick up your copies today, you'll be glad you did! I thank you and God Bless!

Saturday, June 6, 2009

Musical Romance Novel, Mello & June

Hello fellow bloggers! My name is Kimberly Ranee Hicks, and I'm the new author of a novel entitled Mello & June. Actually, Mello & June is more than a novel, it's a musical soundtrack that I've written inspired by some of the best R&B recording artists known. If you enjoy reading as much as I do, this is a book you must have. It will be available for purchase through my website: coming this Fall 2009.

By the way, my middle name is correctly pronounced Ronnie, it is not Renee. Now that I got that out of the way, getting back to the reason I'm blogging, the story of Mello & June is a love story. It has 24 R&B Song Chapters that tell their story. Some of the titles include, Teena Marie--Dear Lover; The S.O.S. Band--Weekend Girl; Phyllis Hyman--Old Friend; and Roberta Flack--The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face, just to name a few. Each chapter gives you insight into Mello & June. To read a synopsis of the story, go to my site listed above.

I've been writing for a very long time, and I decided it was time for me to let the world know that I exist. Writing is a huge part of my life and I truly love doing it. It is my hope that I find a voice and a fan base to spark interest for other novels I am working on. I've been hard at work on my current novel entitled Silent Knight, a mystery. I'm not what you would call a typical writer, but I like to think of myself as an artist of words. Words are very powerful, and I enjoy using them in a positive manner to create great dramas, and if you like drama, Mello & June is a real page turner! So, enough about me, I'd like to hear from you and see what you think? Remember, check out my website! God Bless!