Tuesday, December 1, 2009

The 'Blame Game'. . .

Today was one of those days where all that could have gone wrong most certainly did, and, to add insult to injury, it was the kind of day where I should have been upset, crying, stomping my feet and cussing up a storm, but instead, I remained calm.

I've penned today the "Blame Game!" I guess what always baffles me is when others make mistakes, it's so easy to point the finger at someone else, but the one thing that most individuals who play this game fail to realize is, three fingers are pointing back at YOU!

So, fans, I ask, why do we partake in the Blame Game? One reason is because most people don't like responsibility, much less, own up to it! Why, when you make a mistake, someone will actually see that you're human, and you may be viewed as weak, so therefore, I must blame someone else for my mistakes and problems, right?

In order for you to feel justified in your being, most people resort to blaming others with their shortcomings! So, if blaming someone else makes YOU feel big, what exactly does that make you? Full? Yes, full of yourself, full of an overinflated ego, full of excrament, perhaps? Remember, small-minded folks who enjoy playing the blame game, all games come to an end, eventually! YOU may THINK you're doing something great by placing all your faults on someone else, but sooner or later, all will be revealed, and YOU will be forced to deal with your responsibility.

I am one of those people who believe that you control the destiny in which you drive. I believe that by the choices you make, good or otherwise, all have a way of leading you to a road which may be fruitful, or a road that may be deadly! There are obstacles that are purposely thrown in your way, while you go down the path you've chosen, I believe, to teach you life's lessons, and we're all, somehow, being tested by God to see how well we received our lesson and what we've learned. Some learn from their mistakes, while others, aren't so lucky! And those not so lucky, get angry with us because we've found a path that is working~~these are your road rage drivers in life, or a word I love even better ~~your haters!

Which brings me to my next point. Not only do we, as humans, place blame on others that is undeserved, we also judge others by our own standards! What may excite me and I find to be enjoyment, someone else may think it's totally insane and ridiculous, but at the end of the day, whatever gets you down your path, why should it matter what someone else thinks, right?

Well apparently, I must be wrong, because so many of us judge each other all day long. We gossip and talk about people and say what we would and wouldn't do, when again, you don't know what path someone else is on and why they have chosen to go down the road they are headed. Sure you may see another way that may appear easier for this person to get to their final destination, but ultimately, it's up to the person driving to make that decision. And yes, there will be collisions from time time and fender benders while we drive our course, but the important thing to remember is, IT'S YOUR COURSE! Course signifying your life!

And, let's not forget just because you see someone's chosen course and it seems so perfect and great, it doesn't exactly mean you will be able to duplicate where that driven person has gone. Everyone's course, while we all have the same destination in mind, may vastly differ from the road that you're on, and trust me when I tell you, don't always believe that the grass is greener on the other side, because what works for some drivers, most certainly may not work for you!

I love the saying "Do You!" Because it's a true statement. What we as individuals need to focus on is where we see ourselves, where do we want to go, and make a plan and execute it, and stop worrying about what someone else is doing! Another person's destiny isn't necessarily the destiny you should be on and visa versa. Stay on YOUR course, and worry about what obstacles are coming your way, while you drive through this course called life! When you realize you made a wrong turn and have gotten off the beaten path, don't be so quick to blame someone else, look at the person who was steering the vehicle~~YOU!

Remember fellow gamers, you may point the finger all you want, but never forget that there are 3 fingers pointing right back atcha! You may think you've won and feel all big and special, but eventually, the evil you do to someone else, will always come back to you~~This I guarantee! You truly reap what you sow!

In closing, with the new year only a month away, take some time to reflect back on this fast year, look deeply at yourself in the mirror and see what your reflection says about YOU! Do you like what you see? And if the answser is NO, then you need to make some positive changes and get on the right road, so you may bring the new year in fresh and fully charged! This is my truth~~plain and simple!

Happy Holidays!