Saturday, April 14, 2012

It's Not About You. . .

I can’t think of many things in this life you can do, as a human, alone! You hear people say you come to the world alone and you’ll die alone, but actually that isn’t true. In fact, it took two people to create you, and your mother to birth you, so in essence, you were not alone. As for dying, that would depend on if someone was there to see you safely pass to the other side. But dying would probably be the only thing you will do alone, whether there is someone to see you off or not. It is your soul (alone) that has to pass by itself, and it is my belief, after you do so, that’s where you will meet other souls.


Whether you’re a self-motivator, a go-getter, ambitious, innovative or creative, you cannot be those things without the support of others. Everyone needs support at some time or another, and we all need to feel loved and needed, and therefore, when we do not receive those things, it can make for a very lonely existence. The life of a writer can be very lonely, which is usually by choice, because it’s how one creates.

If you think about it, after you’ve spent days, weeks, months and/or years on a manuscript, the writer has done all of that alone, with the help of research either through the Internet or interviewing experts in order to help write about a particular character or subject, but once again, you were not solely alone.

So, if everything we create takes others to assist, why is it that so many of us are unwilling to support? In order to get where you want to go, often times you must seek others help to get you there.   A baby learns his first words by hearing his parents speak. If you have knowledge or expertise that could potentially help someone, why would you keep that to yourself? I’m often reminded of an old adage my grandfather taught me when I was little girl, “Give a man a fish, he’ll eat for a day, but teach a man to fish, he’ll eat for a lifetime!” How’s that for support, and not only is it support, but that’s a great way to pay it forward.


I am often asked why I support other independent authors. And the answer is quite simple, really—because of my love for the written word and my mutual respect for authors. I love what I do and that passion runs deep within me, but it also runs deep for others who share my same talent. In order for me to get to the next level, it’s not always about what I need or what I want, but putting others first, which in turn helps me to grow.

I truly believe an act of kindness will come back to you—much like with an act of doing something bad—some like to call this Karma and I’m a huge believer. When you help others, you not only are helping yourself, but you are helping the greater good for your cause. When you support others in the same venue as yourself, you build strong relationships; have a strong support network; and receive much knowledge in the art in which you possess. However, more importantly than those things, you, more often than not, will have people who will support your efforts in return.

You have to remember your talent is a gift—and gifts are meant to be shared. It really isn’t going to do your talent much good, if no one knows about it—a mistake I made many years ago, and now I’m playing catch up. But now that I have found my true path, my world has opened up on many different levels. I’ve met people that I probably would have never met, and their willingness to share and help me grow is priceless. These individuals didn’t have to do one damn thing for me, but they take the time to assist, which is why I will always do the same.


Nothing you do is done one hundred percent alone—it will always take someone else standing by your side, guiding you, being your rock or shoulder to cry on, but no matter what, you need help in getting to whatever level you’re striving for. This is why it’s extremely important that you never forget from where you came, and always be reminded of where it is you’re going. Share your gifts. Be a blessing to others so that blessings will reign upon you—that Karma thing again. (Smile)

There were others who came before you that have paved the way for us, and one should always be reminded of that. Never think it’s only about you because it is so much more than that! Your talent is just a small portion of what your world is about. You never know that hand you extend to someone, may, in turn, lend itself to you one day!

If you’re an independent author, show your support of other indie authors! If you’re an avid reader looking for fresh, new and exciting authors, please check out the following sites (for Twitter users, the Hashtags have been provided): African Americans on the Move Book Club (#AAMBC), which you may also find authors each and every month right here on Mello & June’s Book Blog; World Literary CafĂ© (#WLC), Independent Author Network (#IAN1); and last, but certainly not least, Independent Author Index (#IAIndex).


Feel free to press the buttons (pictures of ads with the names of the sites listed in bold above) on the side bar of this blog or you may scroll down to “Memberships” and press the links to learn more. If you’re an Indie Author, some of these sites charge a minimal fee to have your information regarding your books uploaded on their sites, but they are each well worth it and more!

Remember, if you want support, you must give support! It’s not just about you!


Kimberly Ranee Hicks, Author/Poet
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