Saturday, November 10, 2012

A Rude Society. . .

Is it just me, or have you noticed how rude people seem to be today?  What happened to the days when someone gestured a nod of the head, as saying hello, and you nodded back?  What happened to giving up your seat for an older person on the bus, so they wouldn't have to stand?  Or what happened to the days when someone was crossing the street, and you let the person cross without gunning your engine as if you're about to mow them over while you wait?



Every single day I see more and more rudeness among people and I don't quite understand when or why this occurred?  What has happened to us that all we seem to care about is ourselves and not giving a damn about anyone else?  When did our society become "all about me" and to hell with others?

In my office building, I was running a little late to catch the elevator, and I saw people getting on and I was close enough for them to hear me and I asked please hold the elevator.  No sooner had I got to the door, this one guy standing next to the buttons depressed his floor and the doors shut right in my face.  I thought wow how rude was that?  I was right at the door.  Just before the doors slammed, I heard some of the people on the elevator say, you could have held the door.

While driving home from work, and with all the massive road construction, navigating to and from has become an art of sorts.  I try to exit my parking garage, but the motorist coming past my garage refuse to let us out.  I can't tell you how many times I see near misses of accidents because you literally just have to force your car out to get into the flow of traffic just so you can get home.  And those motorists have the nerve to blow the horn on you as if you're wrong for cutting them off.  Is it that much trouble to allow a few cars out and then proceed?  I guess so.


I saw an older woman with several packages trying to juggle them while attempting to open the door.  I ran over and held the door for her, only for her to walk through and never once said, "thank you ma'am."  I yelled out, "you're welcome!"  What the hell is wrong with people, seriously?  Why are people so damn rude and inconsiderate?

One of my neighbors had some guests over and one of the guests decided to leave their rap music blaring and booming on in the car, while they visited.  Aaah, excuse me but if you are visiting someone in their home, why the hell are you leaving your car sitting idle with the music blaring so that the entire neighborhood has to listen to it?  Who in the hell asked you to seranade us without permission?


I went into the Wal-Mart one afternoon and went to reach for a cart, and unbeknownst to me another woman was grabbing for the same cart.  While I proceeded to grab it, she pulled it out of my hands and casually walked on about her business.  I was there first grabbing the cart, and she just pulled the cart away from me and thought nothing of it.  I started to say something to her, but she was moving too fast, and I stood there with that look like, what the hell?

While I'm leaving the Wal-Mart, I looked both ways to make sure no motorists were coming--satisified, I proceeded to push my cart into the crosswalk, and out of nowhere a motorist damn there hit me and gave me a look as if I had no business being in the crosswalk to get to my vehicle.  Are you serious right now?



I'm visiting with some friends of mine and their children, or rather their teenagers, came into the room, and not one of them opened their mouths to say hello to me nor any of the other guests visiting.  When I was a kid, if I walked into anyone's house let alone a room and didn't speak to the people there, my mother would have slapped me in the mouth.  Finally, one of the parents said, "what are you to say when you enter a room?"  The young man just looked at us and said, "hey," while his sisters never addressed us at all.  Hey?  And he had to be told what he's supposed to do instead of automatically knowing he's to speak when entering a room!

One night I was talking with a girlfriend on the phone, and she had to interrupt our conversation about a hundred times because her kids were just being unruly and disrespectful.  Finally I had had enough and told her I would talk with her later.  If I had done that while my mother was on the phone, I wouldn't be sitting here writing this blog post today. 

Rude, Rude, Rude, Rude, Rude people are all I deal with on a daily damn basis and I'm sick and tired of it and just fed up!  I don't understand why people are just rude and inconsiderate and feel that their time is the only time that's worth anything and the rest of us are supposed to sit back and let them continue on with this terrible behavior.

And if what I said before wasn't bad enough of poor behavior, I was standing, once again, waiting on the elevator and a white older gentleman was standing and waiting too.  The weather was terrible outside, raining and wind blowing leaves around, and we were both looking out into the street.  He says out loud, "Yeah, it's Black Friday today, isn't it young lady?"  I could feel the blood boiling inside my body.  I turned and responded, "Black Friday is the third Friday in November, and we're not near that time yet, and what does that have to do with it anyway?"  He began turning a few shades of a deeper red, and said, "I thought that's what rainy days meant."   Oh so I suppose because it was a Friday this happened on and I'm a black woman, all of a sudden it's got to be Black Friday?  There was so much more I wanted to say to him, but chose not to even bother.  How ignorant and rude!  He knows damn well a rainy day doesn't mean that at all, but it didn't stop him from saying it.


This is what I mean, folks, what the hell is wrong with people?  Why do some of us find it necessary to go out of our way to be mean, cruel and rude to one another?  Back in the day, people didn't behave like this.  I know there were always mean people in the world, but for the most part, we just didn't interact with others the way we do now.

What has caused people to be so damn rude and ignorant?  Why don't we as people give a damn about anyone except ourselves?  What gives you the right to treat others in this manner?  Why do some of us feel it's perfectly ok to behave this way?

If you're like me, I'm sure you've asked yourself those same questions about a million times a day.  Some days it's just downright mind boggling to me.  It disturbs me plenty that people act this way and think it's quite alright to do so.  People say whatever they want, they pretty much do whatever they want and we're supposed to sit back and just take it.

All I know is I'm taking the advice my mother gave me when I was a little girl and applying it to today because God knows it's the truth:  "You cannot control what others do, but you can control how you react."  She's absolutely right.  Most times I don't react at all because I'm careful in the battles in which I choose to fight.  If the mood hits me and I feel like responding, sometimes I will, but most times I just shake my damn head and say, umph, umph, umph, what the hell is wrong with people today?

I don't have any answsers, but all I can do is work on myself, which is what I do.  For the most part one thing is for certain and that is for those of you who behave poorly, your upbringing definitely shows!



Kimberly Ranee Hicks, Author/Poet