Sorry I haven't been around lately. I'm the type of person where if I have nothing to say, I don't. That's what my mama taught me. So, keeping in line with that, I decided not to update the blog. But there have been some things happening as of the last couple of weeks that set my fingers on fire.
I was speaking with a good friend of mine whose daughter is a substitute teacher (which, by the way, I will not mention the school district), but at any rate, she advised me that her daughter was given specific rules as to how she should go about conducting her classroom. Oh, did I forget to mention she teaches elementary school--ok, so we were talking about how things have changed with schools these days--you've seen the news reports and read about the changes online. You hear all the horrible stories about some teachers sleeping with students, or some students who go on killing sprees, schools shutting their doors forever, the whole nine. It makes me thankful I went to school when I did.
Anyhoo, she mentioned that her daughter was told she cannot give grades for her students. If you think that's weird, it gets better. She was also told that the students can stand up during class, go to the bathroom without a hall pass, or move around if it tickles their fancy, etc. Damn, do schools offer hall passes anymore? Umm, I've been out of school for so long, and I don't have any children, so I was so totally out of the loop.
Ok, several questions formed in my mind so fast, I couldn't gather the thoughts together. First off, how does a child know how he/she is doing, if they aren't given grades? When I asked her what is the point to that, she advised the school district feels it makes the children "upset" if they get a bad rating thereby causing them to feel bad about themselves. Ahh, Ok? One of my coworkers mentioned that when she was in school, her teachers gave the letter "N" for Needs Improvement instead of an "F" because they felt that made the student feel better.
What the hell? I'm sorry, but this, to me, is the worst thing you could do to a child. They have to learn that everyone is NOT a winner! Everyone doesn't always do well on a test. Some children apply themselves and should be awarded for that, and there are some that do not, and reap what they put in. Some children may need more guidance and help with a subject matter, but to not grade them at all, and to tell children they are all winners, and to sugarcoat situations all for the sake of keeping the peace and their feelings from getting hurt, is lulling your child into a false security that isn't a reality.
This now explains why I see younger people working today that have this attitude that they can do what they want, and when they don't feel like doing something, they don't have to do it, and that everything they do and say, is quite alright because this is the way many of them were taught.
OMG, if you don't find something seriously wrong with this way of teaching, what the hell is wrong with you? My mother didn't give a damn about my feelings when it came to school. The rules were, "your job is to go to school, apply your best, do what you're told, and get good grades." Period!!!! If you screwed up on a test, then you studied harder. If you struggled with a subject, then you asked for help. When you tried something new and it wasn't working for you, practice made perfect. If practice wasn't helping, then perhaps you might find something else that may be your gift, but at no time did my mother ever walk on "eggshells" or tell me untruths just so my feelings didn't get hurt--she could give a rat's ass! Education was extremely important to her, and still is.
Rejection is a part of life. In fact, so is negativity. Those things built, what we used to call, character, but now we're building weak-minded, handheld children who can't function in the real world by telling them everything is great and lovely, when we all know damn well that's not the case. If your children watch the news alongside you, do they not see and hear what is happening in the world? Do you make excuses or lie to them about real-life issues? Do you really think that's the best way to educate a child by telling them lies--seriously!
I was horrified when I learned that some school coaches are told to advise their student athletes they're all winners! Some kids can't cut it, but they are a winner and should be allowed to remain on the team, even when their skills lack or they show a lack of interest. What the hell is going on in this world anymore? Who likes rejection? Who wants to be told they didn't make the team or receive an F on a test/paper? No human being wants to ever deal with those things, but the fact of the matter is, that's REALITY! Life isn't always going to go the way you want it, and that's just the facts damn it! Even when you prepare the best you know how, bad things can and do happen.
Like I said, many parents are raising weak-minded, handheld, living-in-a-fantasy-world children. Is that really what you want for your kids? And many people wonder why this world has gone to hell? Well, sh*t, if schools are educating children this way, is there any wonder? I'm so damn glad I don't have children because I would be at the school everyday if my child was being subjected to those falsehoods. Which brings me to another point. It's up to the parents to teach their child the correct way long before he/she gets to a school.
This subject was weighing heavily on my mind, and I had to speak about it. You may or may not agree with me, but I'm sorry, that is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard!
Kimberly Ranee Hicks, Author/Poet
Instead of Watching Reality TV, Wake Up to YOUR Reality!